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.:Wednesday, November 16, 2005:.

100 questions..

I said 40 mins to kill.. well now 30.. so here I am about to do just that :P.. I'll answer as many as I can before 7.. and maybe finish the rest later.. some of the q's are sooo lame.. and not all my answers are serious.. I'm also running on no food and no sleep so gimmii a break..

100 questions to ask a prospective husband/wife.

1) What is your concept of marriage?

commitment, sacrafice, patience(lots of it), compromise.. Alot of people put too much emphasis on the "love" part of marriage.. I agree its a great part but its not all of what its about.

2) Have you been married before?

Nope.

3) Are you married now?

LOL NO?

4) What are you expectations of marriage?

I know its not always going to be a bed of roses but I want to do my best so that it is. There will be hard times, good times, bad times, easy times.. and I understand that.. InshaAllah if both people try their best to fulfill the rights of the other then inshaAllah things will work well..

5) What are your goals in life? (Long and short term)

Please my parents.. Raise my children(inshaAllah) on the deen.. be best wife I can be.. do good in school till whenever I finish(or quit :P).. and most of all strive for the aakhira..

6) Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.

Pass my math class!!!!!! Finish my hifdh(inshaAllah ya rub).. and what I want to do in the really near future is go to sleep!

7) Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.

dude..scroll up and look at question 5..

8) Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?

I aint chosen no one yet innit :P. But I guess I could turn this into a "What am I looking in a spouse" question.. Someone thats on the deen.. thats their main focus in their life.. thats #1.. everything else comes after.. oh, they cant be more than 10 years older than me :S..

9) What is the role of religion in your life now?

Life is centered around it...

10) Are you a spiritual person?

Depends on your definition of "spiritual".. am I soofi spiritual, no way.. but other definitions then ya possibly..

11) What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?

husband protector of the family.. wife protector of the house.. etc..

12) What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?

To put the deen before everything else.

13) What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in
your area?

Thats like the only relationships I have.. its tight alhamdulillah.

14) Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?

Yea. all masjid activities.. and almaghrib.. specificly seattle qabeelah..

15) What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?

It'll take alot of sabr to live with me so that will increase them in ajir?

16) What is the role of the husband?

Provider, protector, and teacher of family..

17) What is the role of the wife?

Cook, laundry person etc.. all boring stuff :P. joke.
ermm.. support for husband.. mother of the children.. you know.. keeps the house running.. (to tired to put it correctly)

18) Do you want to practice polygamy?

LOL. I guess up to husband.. I'd be maaaad jelous.. but its his right.. so alhamdulillah 'ala kulli haal.

19) What is your relationship with your family?

Its good alhamdulillah.. both with my immediate and extended.

20) What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to
be?

His family is my family.. InshaAllah thats how I plan on treating them, and inshaAllah how they'll treat me.

21) What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?

Same as mine with his..

22) Is there anyone in your family living with you now?

I live with my parents and sister.

23) Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the
future?

Allahu 'aalam.

24) If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what
should be done?

na'oodhu billahi min dhaalik.. but if it were to happen then I'd respect him not having contact with them.. but I wouldnt break contact with them.

25) Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)

What good will this do? It's just names..

26) How did you get to know them?

ermm.. some at masjid.. some family.. some internet

27) Why are they your friends?

couse they're awesome.. I can trust them.. be myself with them..

28) What do you like most about them?

honesty..

29) What will your relationship with them after marriage be?

same as now..

30) Do you have friends of the opposite sex?

LOL, are you kidding?

31) What is the level of your relationship with them now?

You expect me to answer this?

32) What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?

I'd like to go out with them every weekend.. that cool with you? *rolls eyes*..

33) What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your
friends?

NON! he not supposed to talk to girls.. tsk tsk

34) What are the things that you do in your free time?

Go online.. sleep.. read.. sew.. cook!!!!.. listen to things.. hang out with mom... run/exercise

35) Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?

I'm so used to guests.. and ya I like them alhamdulillah.

36) What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the
house?

Leave the house or sit in a different room :P. No way he gonna sit with us!

37) What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not
understand? (with friends or family)

If it dont bother you then I will.. if I does then I'd respect that and not.. except the only other language I know good is arabi and I plan on teaching that to my kids.. so I guess I'd speak it at home :/

38) Do you travel?

Sometimes..

39) How do you spend your vacations?

Vacation? Whats that?

40) How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?

however way he wants.. as long as its with me :P

41) Do you read?

Yes

42) What do you read?

mostly islamic books.. and textbooks.. I stopped most fiction a long time ago

43) After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic
feelings verbally?

LOL. I am so not posting my answer to this on blog.

44) After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in
public?

depends whats meant by that..

45) How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?

I dont know..

46) How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for
you?

Thank them.. and treat them well.. and try to return the favor..

47) Do you like to write your feelings?

Yep, all the time.. but no one gets to see it :P

48) If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?

Depends who it is that I've wronged.. if its my mom I'll do things for her.. tell her I'm sorry.. give her a hug... and bug her till she forgives me... if its a friend I appolgize and try not to wrong them again.. etc..

49) If someone has wronged you, how do you want him/her to apologize to you?

Whatever way they feel most comftrable with.. as long as its sincere

50) How much time passes before you can forgive someone?

Usually right away..

51) How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?

Think them through.. and make istikhara

52) Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?

in general the worst I use is.. "flip".. "idiot".. "stupid".. "jerk".. "majnoonah".. etc

53) Do your friends use foul language?

LOL SOME!

54) Does your family use foul language?

Nah..

55) How do you express anger?

I dont.. I usually keep it inside..

56) How do you expect your spouse to express anger?

The way they usually do?

57) What do you do when you are angry?

read quran.. go to my room and lay down..

58) When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?

if there is difference that cant be reconciled without it.. but in general I dislike other ppl getting in the middle of spouses.

59) When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how
should the conflict get resolved?

resolve it through the deen..

60) Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.

mental = mind games.. verbal = foul language.. name calling.. and irrational harshness.. physical = anything that leaves a mark..

61) What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?

:/ cry?.. wait till he cools down and talk it over..

62) Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?

Allahu 'aalam..

63) Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?

I have asthma that goes and comes.. but i dont think thats chronic is it?

64) Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?

ya..

65) What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?

Eat well.. sleep well.. excersise and stay in shape? lol.. I dunnu..

66) How do you support your own health and nutrition?

Eat good(usually).. work out at home.. and go running when I can..

67) What is you definition of wealth?

That on yowm al Qiyaama you got enough good deeds to enter jannah inshaAllah.

68) How do you spend money?

Barly spend it on myself.. I splurge when I buy things for ppl though..

69) How do you save money?

In my room.

70) How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?

Disisions will be mutual..

71) Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to
eliminate them?

Nope, no debts walhamdulillah..

72) Do you use credit cards?

My moms bank card :P

73) Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?

74) What are you expecting from your spouse financially?

75) What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?

76) Do you support the idea of a working wife?

If its needed.. and he wants me too.. then ya.. but only in a halal inviorment.. such as from home.. islamic school etc..

77) If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?

Mutually..

78) Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?

lol.. I dont work.. but sorta

79) Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?

no one..

80) Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?

maids are a big no no.. babysitters are hmm I dunnu maybe.. if it was needed I'd rather it be my mom/mother in law.. etc

81) Do you want to have children? If not, why?

YES YES YES

82) To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?

Yes

83) Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not,
when?

Whenever Allah swt grants me them.. and no I soo dont wanna use contraseptivs

84) Do you believe in abortion?

85) Do you have children now?

86) What is your relationship with your children now?

got non..

87) What is your relationship with their other parent?

bleh

88) What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children
and their parent?

bleh

89) What is the best method(s) of raising children?

on the deen.. rais them to be the best muslims.. and leaders they can be..

90) What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?

a balance between harshness and understanding.

91) How were you raised?

man.. I can write an essay on this..

92) How were you disciplined?

same answer as above..

93) Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?

sorta.. it depends on the circumstance

94) Do you believe in public school for your children?

Yes and no. I think they have a benifit if they child has strong values instilled in them already.. but they do alot of harm as well..

95) Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?

ya..

96) Do you believe in home schooling for your children?

totally..

97) What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim
classmates/friends?

they aint friends.. they're aquiantences..

98) Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they
lived in another state or country?

yes

99) What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all
their grandparents?

strong one

100) If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of
different race or culture, what type of relationship do you want to have
with them?

My step bros.. ya.. I still want one

I answered last few q's really fast couse dads on his way.. but ya..

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